Two Good Links


Yesterday I had vague ideas of polishing off a blog post draft to post today, but instead after work I spent the afternoon watching CNN and falling into a larger and larger hole of despair as they played the video of President Obama and He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named (on this blog anyway), sitting next to each other in the Oval Office – an image that truly sickened me. Instead of writing the blog post I meant to write for today, or doing anything, I just wound up falling asleep.

 I don’t have an essay to write about the horrid results of the election, and I don’t have a message of hope – I haven’t moved on from grief, anger, and despair to feeling hopeful, yet. At all. What I do have are two quick reads to share that I’ve found helpful, and perhaps like-minded people might find helpful as well.
Ten-Step Program for Adjusting to President-Elect Trump: This short article struck the perfect tone – acknowledging the horror and despair, but with the sardonic humor that I desperately needed. It was the first thing I’ve read regarding this mess that actually made me laugh.
Lena Dunham’s reaction piece captured the heartbreak and disbelief: “Because as horrifying as I found Donald Trump’s rhetoric, as hideous as I found his racism and xenophobia, as threatening to basic decency as I found his demagogue persona, I never truly believed he could win.” Same, Lena. Same.
Wish I had some better things to say but I’m still feeling scattered, scared, shellshocked, and confused, honestly. Thanks, as always, for reading. xoxo


  1. Kim says: November 11, 2016

    My family is also feeling scared and shell shocked. We watched election night with our kids and reassured them when he pulled ahead it would only be for a little while until polls closed here on the west coast. The next morning we had to tell them he won. It was horrible.

  2. Marine says: November 12, 2016

    I wish you a lot of strength, my dear Jackie. I believe only art and beauty will make us overcome this dreadful moment.
    As a Frenchwoman, now I’m praying with all my heart for the far-right movement not to gain any vote either, but elections are in April and the situation is pretty tense too… :/

  3. Katie says: November 12, 2016

    Thank you for this. I feel the exact same way; repulsed and unproductive, and it’s refreshing to see it acknowledged straightforwardly on a blog.

  4. Ahirini says: November 12, 2016

    First of all – Hugs! I have been intermittently crying, getting mad and calling my family as I want them to assure me that I won’t get killed on the Upper East Side. Hillary’s speech still brings me to tears. I am scared, and I don’t think I will ever come to terms with the result. I feel like the nightmare will never end and all these messages of hope are not really enough in the face of the true atrocity he might unleash.
    And I am really disgusted by other women bloggers who actually voted for him and now saying how unfair we are being to them! It’s sickening!

    1. Carol says: November 13, 2016

      I really enjoyed reading this blog until now. I for one, am so tired of everyone commenting and expressing anger towards our newly elected president.

      We are all so lucky to live in a country where we can say what we want. All I read these responses, it makes me feel more and more each day that if people bare this unhappy then by all means leave. You have the right to leave.

      Do I think Donald Trump hates women? No, I do not. In retrospect, let’s look at Bill Clinton and how he received oral sex from an intern. Does everyone remember that? He disgraced his wife and this country as far as I am concerned.

      I think all of you need to give him a chance. Maybe you should ready his 100 day plan. I for one, am looking forward to getting more money in my paycheck that so many of us depend on. Which brings to me a thought regarding a family member. He worked in construction, for the same company for 30 years. He lost his job to illegal workers. Why? Because they can be paid next to nothing and they in fact take money away from American workers. Is this fair? I should say not. I come from an immigrant family that came to this county with the clothes on their back. They went through the necessary channels and became citizens.

      For all of you bleeding hearts, I say once again, “if you don’t like it then leave.” All this nonsense about being horrified and sickened by this man is awful. It’s only natural creating more anger.

      I wasn’t happy Mr. Obama was elected but I didn’t take my angst and go to the streets in protest and even dare say any woman (i.e. ms. trump) should be raped. Shame on all of you.

      This weekend I witnessed hatred as one man called me a white b****. If this was reversed I would have started a riot in the streets. In the end, this white ***** is tired of carrying the lazy loads out there. I work 60+ hours a week and do my fair share. Pick yourselves up and do your fair share like our ancestors.

      I will miss reading your blog, Jackie. You have lost a loyal reader along with many others.

      1. Sarah says: December 10, 2016

        people cannot be illegal.

  5. Robin says: November 12, 2016

    Thank you for posting this and taking a stand. I unfollowed a blog that I really enjoyed because the blogger didn’t even mention the election, the results, the pain, the despair, the embarassment, the terror. Just went along sending links to more items to buy. I’m feeling really shell shocked right now, like a lot of people are. I live in the Bay Area, California. Even here racism is rearing its ugly head. And just read an article on HuffPo about how badly he will screw up the environment. Too devastating for words.

  6. Sofie says: November 13, 2016

    Thank you for writing this post. So many of us are grieving right now and it’s important that the feelings of fear, sadness, and shock that have gripped our country aren’t glossed over on blogs. The next four years are going to be hard to swallow and I hope that you continue to voice your opinion. I have a lot of respect for everyone who is using their platform to tell it like it is, even if that means losing a few followers along the way.

  7. susan / fleurishing says: November 14, 2016

    Thank you for sharing Jackie. Virtual hug. xo

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